If I had been given the choice between a legal marriage or a legal partnership… which one would I choose? Which one of these constructs best fits our relationship? Does it matter to me? And if so, how much? Given the chance to change, would I?
Stop counting sheep! It just isn’t brain friendly to lay their counting towards what feels like infinity, getting more and more stressed the higher you go. What can be more helpful is to close your eyes and visualise a giant blackboard in front of you. With a piece of your imaginary chalk write the number ‘100’ as big as you can, then with your imaginary board rubber, rub the numbers out, let your eyes move from left to right to follow the rubber’s movements...
Some may come to a coach because they are in a significant crisis. Some come to coaching who have a great relationship and want to invest into keeping it that way. Things change, life doesn't always go to plan, and some like to get ahead fo the game before things turn too tricky. It's understandable that some find the concept of paying to talk to someone a strange concept. But reflect for a moment on the other things we might choose to do to make us feel better or to 'make or break' a relationship...
The reality is that a relationship is a daily commitment, that much like a plant, needs to be fed the right nutrients, in the right conditions often... otherwise it withers and dies. A happy and loving relationship can not be sustained by grand gestures on a handful of days in the calendar. And there is no one size fits all approach to this, much like the vast species of plants that require very different conditions.
We can reflect to recognise what scares us and where it is coming from for us. Know that it's normal - just that old survival mechanism in our brain - accept that it is what it is. Feel the fear and do it anyway, especially if it get’s us closer to what we truly want. Remember a ship in harbour is safe, but that’s not what ships are built for!
Develop psychological skills to get the best out of yourself and your relationships!
Mind Set Match launched on the 5th December 2017. They offer an alternative approach to life, love, dating and relationships, that's grounded in neuroscience and psychology of the human mind.
This revolution is headed by two specialist coaches, Sabrina Francis and Laura Fishenden, who were previously teamed with Professor Steve Peters - author of best-selling book ‘The Chimp Paradox’, and Consultant Sport Psychiatrist of Sky ProCycling, GB Cycling, Liverpool FC, England Football, Ronnie O’Sullivan and a host of other sports teams.
Their signature eight-evening-session programmes, aimed at singles, will soon to be popping up in 12 UK cities - London, Manchester, Birmingham, Glasgow, Liverpool, Edinburgh, Nottingham, Brighton, Newcastle, Belfast, Oxford and Leeds.
When asked how people react to this concept Sabrina explained “It’s been overwhelmingly positive, from ‘genius!’, to ‘when can I start?’! There are so many people completely dejected by their experiences of dating sites and dating apps. Especially when they are genuinely looking for a long-term relationship, and are often met by those who seem to be looking for a quick ego boost, a free meal or an easy way to attempt to get their leg over. For the majority of people the thought of dating sites and apps being their only option to finding a loving, log-term relationship is soul destroying. They deserve better and are ready for something new, that makes a valuable difference to their lives”.
About Mind Set Match Ltd
The seed was planted when Sabrina was delivering a keynote presentation at a Conference in June 2017, when mid-way a lovely fellow insisted that EVERYBODY should have access to these insights before settling down in their relationship. On the drive home she reflected on this, and the countless 30-55 year-old (otherwise really successful) people she knew, who were faced with the perils of online dating. So she decided to take up the challenge.
Mind Set Match are a small team of coaches who offer high quality group workshops and personal 1:1 coaching. Their 'David and Goliath'-esque battle to take on dating sites and dating apps - the likes of match.com, eharmony, POF, Tinder and co - is to shift the focus onto developing insight and emotional skills. Helping people to get the right mindset to deal with the highs and lows in their quest to find ‘the one’. At the same time as creating a supportive community, offering heaps of networking opportunities online and in real life!
By understanding their own MIND and the minds of others, people become crystal clear on what and who they want, and can recognise what has been really standing in their way. Unlocking the science and secrets to happy long-term relationships, people are empowered to take positive action and get themselves SET, before moving into their next relationship. Human connection is critical to people’s transformations, so sessions are face-to-face. This, together with exclusive online networking groups, help people to optimise their chances of meeting their MATCH!
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